“90% of all communication is non-verbal…” Hitch from the movie Hitch
Too often we miss what others are saying to us because we spend more time listening to what a person says, not how a person says it. The behavior of those we interact with and our own behavior provide more information on how they and we prefer to be treated than all the words expressed in a given moment. Knowing how to observe behaviors and what those specific behaviors tell us opens doors to better communication and better relationships for us with our spouses, family, friends, co-workers, and others we meet throughout a day.
Not Good Enough!
Many people today are distressed with a haunting fear of being not good enough. Not being good enough can mean wholly different things for individuals – from a work environment to a love relationship. Yet, we were created with uniqueness to be unlike anyone else. We are unique in our style of behavior, our talents, our strengths, our personality, our presence in this world. What is more accurate than, “I’m not good enough,” is “When I compare myself to others, when I attend self-help seminars, when I read self-help books, and when I do my job, I’m comparing myself to someone’s standard of their being enough.” Of course you can’t be good enough for their standard! You shouldn’t be! But, you are more than enough to be who you were created to be!
Einstein once said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it's stupid.”